Below you’ll not only find the best sex positions for female orgasm, but you’ll also find tips to help you orgasm more often and more easily!
Why you don’t have an orgasm during sex
Many people think of sex as what happens after the penis enters the vagina, and most women simply aren’t going to orgasm from that kind of stimulation. Why? Most women need immediate clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and penetration just doesn’t do it.
The best sex positions for female orgasm, then, are those that provide access to your clitoris so that you or your partner can stimulate it. Alternatively, other best positions for orgasm align your clitoris with your partner’s pelvis (or other body part) for stimulation.
Below are just a few of the best orgasm positions.
1. Cowgirl
When on top, you control the angle, speed and depth of penetration. By the way, sex positions where you are in control as a woman usually work best for reaching orgasm.
Why?
You’ll need to be in control if you want to get the boost you need. You can also reach out to rub your clitoris – or use a sex toy – and your partner can also help. Here’s a trick that might help: have your partner place their fingers around the base of his penis with two fingers on each side.
2. Doggy style
Doggy style is a perfect position for orgasm not because of the stimulation of the clitoris, but because of the feeling of the G-spot. Height differences can make doggy style difficult for some couples, so try placing a pillow under the knees you or kneel on a piece of furniture. If you have trouble staying in this position, placing pillows under your belly can help.
3. Technique of “alignment”
The “coital alignment technique” (CAT) is a variation of the classic missionary position in sex, with the man on top, but if applied correctly it guarantees the orgasm of both the man and the woman at the same time! CAT differs from missionary in a few key factors. First, your partner should get closer to you than they usually do in missionary. Next, lift your hips so your clit is closer to your partner’s pelvis (a pillow under your butt helps). He then focuses on a rocking motion rather than a push.
4. Lotus
This sex position may not work for every body shape and size, but it’s worth a try if you think it will work for you. To do the lotus position, your partner must first sit down and cross their legs like a pretzel. Then you sit on his lap with your legs wrapped around his back. You can lock your ankles behind it if you want.
5. Missionary
Okay, we’ve heard enough times that the missionary position is often not one of the best sex positions for women, but it can get you to the climax you deserve – if you do it right. First, play with your clit or ask your partner to do the same if there is enough space between your bodies. Second, you can consider a small vibrator that curves around your body and holds it between the two of you while you have sex.
Tips for achieving orgasm through sex
In addition to trying out some of the best female orgasm sex positions, you can use some of the tips below to make the most of your adventures in the bedroom.
- Use games. For some women, toys make orgasm much easier or are required for orgasm. Toys last longer than your hand or partner – just make sure the batteries are charged. It also takes some of the pressure off your partner from having to maintain an erection.
- Don’t just focus on penis penetration. Incorporate fingers (his or yours) and tongues to ensure you orgasm during sex. Even a strategically placed thigh can bring you orgasmic bliss.
- Use pillows. They can make it easier for you to get into certain positions or stay in them until you are able to have an orgasm.
- Don’t forget the foreplay. The more aroused you are before your partner even gets between your legs, the more likely you are to have an orgasm during penetration. So start the day earlier with some sexy underwear after a relaxing bath, add a sensual massage and relax with your man before the clothes even come off. Foreplay is half the battle when it comes to orgasm.