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The video of Jennifer Lopez dancing on an escalator, spectacular and radiant, has gone viral. After announcing her divorce from actor Ben Affleck, the image of the artist is far from that of a dejected woman. Is this attitude beneficial or does it mean a denial of the situation? Another example is the actress Natalie Portman, who after 11 years of marriage has broken up with her partner, the dancer and choreographer Benjamin Millepied. The actress has caused a stir in each of her public appearances due to her great physical appearance and good humor. “After a love breakup we expect the person to break down, not socialize and forget about self-care and many times this is the case.
However, there are people who react just the opposite, taking more care of themselves than before both in terms of health and physical appearance. “Although at first it seems like something superficial, it can actually be due to deeper processes at a mental level” reasons. “In a society where emotional changes are becoming more and more common, with divorce rates approaching 50%, “the fact that people have to reinvent themselves, so to speak, have to reflect on the changes in their life and look forward is increasingly key,” an expert.
There are many factors that influence this grieving process and although some time ago psychology marked out the phases that one goes through, now in reality it is called negotiation. “Denial, anger, negotiation, depression, sadness, can appear at different times, but in the end the idea is that there is acceptance. But in this whole process, which takes time, if the person is doing certain actions that make them accept the new situation, it is always more positive. In this sense, when women become pretty it can be linked to different moments,” the expert insists. If you are linked to denial, your thoughts will be led to “when he comes back to me, let him see how well I am, let him see what he has missed.” Or if you are in a phase of sadness, focusing on self-care will be a very positive move. Experts recommend a healthy diet, exercise, not only for the physical effects but also because it helps us secrete endorphins, sleeping well and even practicing mindfulness.
“As we practice it, compassion naturally develops, which we can also train in a specific way. This teaches us to take care of ourselves and to be kind to ourselves in moments of suffering,” explains another psychologist. In any case, and in a society sometimes governed by the tyranny of social networks, all these practices must be carried out from a perspective of tranquility and not turn it into an obsession. “We must be honest with ourselves, as it can be just a mask for others and we avoid looking inside ourselves, which prevents us from managing our emotions and grief, which can be harmful in the long run,” warns the psychologists.
– Assess and listen to our authentic needs: identify what can be good for me, how I realistically want to take care of myself, whether it is choosing a sport, a hobby or a new learning.
– It is essential to balance moments of solitude with moments of social connection and relationships with our loved ones. It is good not to try to avoid moments alone, since they are necessary to process the emotion and assimilate grief, but without abandoning or isolating ourselves.
-Allow yourself to feel, to accumulate different emotions during a breakup, from anger to sadness or disbelief, it is normal and will pass, as long as you give those emotions space to drain.
-Talk about how you feel with people you trust, express your feelings, but don’t let it become the only topic of conversation, leave room to talk about other things and for your loved ones to also express themselves and tell you. This will help you put things into perspective and not let it become an obsession.
-Take care of your health and fitness with activities you enjoy and healthy habits, such as regular physical exercise and a healthy diet, avoiding processed foods.
-Plan activities that stimulate us both intellectually and sensorially, but remember, in tune with our own authentic needs and tastes and without leading us to hyperactivity, since this could become an escape forward.
Uma Thurman (2003)
The actress and her marriage to Ethan Hawke was one of the most literary affairs of the early 2000s. A whirlwind relationship that ended with rumors of infidelity by the actor with the family nanny. “Blaming someone doesn’t make you feel better. And when you have two children, I think it’s a priority to protect them and never lose sight of the fact that even if you’re going to fight or if things go wrong, the best thing for them is that everything turns out well,” the actress declared later. That same year she starred in the first installment of Kill Bill, proving that she was at her best.
Diana, Princess of Wales (1996)
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Ana de Armas (2013)
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Karol G (2021)
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Shakira (2022)
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Rosalia (2023)
We still remember the beautiful and loving videos on social media with Rauw Alejandro. Their marriage proposal was more beautiful than a Meg Ryan movie. Then came the storm putting an end to the media-covered relationship. Today, the singer boasts of undeniable power.
Natalie Portman (2024)
The actress met her husband Benjamin Millepied during the filming of Black Swan , it was love at first sight. The marriage lasted 10 years. A decade in which there were several rumors of infidelity on the part of the dancer and several attempts at reconciliation. Since announcing her divorce, Portman has been stealing the spotlight with her radiant beauty.
Charlotte Casiraghi (2024)
Always the epitome of beauty and elegance, since last January, when her breakup with film producer Dimitri Rassam came to light due to professional incompatibilities, after seven years together and a child together, the princess has once again become the queen of high society.